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So. Its been four years since my ex husband left me for another woman. One year since I've been divorced.

In the last four years I have blossomed and discovered so much about myself. I am about to get my BA, will have my masters and two teaching credentials in another 3 years. I am surrounded by people who care and support me.

I won't lie, dating is hard. My relationship with my ex ruined sexual intimacy for me, so any future relationships won't have that aspect. However, the person I did date for about 2 years was absolutely incredible. They showed me so much of what a healthy relationship was. Although we didn't work out, we are now best friends. He's super supportive and is always there.

I won't lie. Occasionally I check up on my ex. Why? I am terrified he'll move closer to me again, and its not something I want. It terrifies me. However, I also get some giggles at watching his life implode. He told all his friends he cheated because I was holding him.back and I was the reason for all the problems. Its lively to see how wrong he was and it shows everyone that he was the problem in his own life.

I do miss him sometimes. But we were together for over 10 years. It makes sense. I'm missing what we had in the beginning. I know I'm better off now tho.

Just thought I'd share since it's been years since yall helped me out.

Congratulations on all your successes! You sound like a real badass and he will be left in your dust.
I hope you do get some IC to help you through the intimacy— you deserve all the love you want. But regardless, so happy you are following your dreams. Well done!!

Great update! Life on the other side is so much better.