Webbit (original poster member #84517) posted at 1:02 AM on Monday, October 7th, 2024
This type of thinking is a bit strange I think but does anyone wonder if their WS is now a ‘safe partner’ vs just not having the opportunity to have another affair.
My WH did not go searching for an AP but rather just fell into his lap (pardon the pun). He just didn’t say no when that horny young co-worker flirted with him. Now he has done a lot of work on himself, which I can see and I guess admire. He obviously swears black and blue that he would never do this to me/us again. But sometimes I just think it is because he may just not get the opportunity.
It’s like I want him to be tested. Like I want someone to hit on him and him say no for some proof. I know this could be true of any partner but after his affair it’s a thought that pops into my head regularly and I have also said it to him.
Does anyone else feel/think this way?
Fracturedfool ( new member #84734) posted at 1:16 AM on Monday, October 7th, 2024
I too would want my WH to walk away from the situation if presented and have the balls to be a man. But I know in my heart if he was at his sisters and the AP showed up (her best friend) he would fall all over himself. He would not walk away nor would he give me a second thought. He has never showed remorse or acknowledged any wrongdoing (really !!!) so he will never be a "safe partner" to me.
Me BS 70 WH 72 M 42 yrs Together 52 yrs D days 1976-1979 New D day Jan 1 2023
Should have believed what he was the first time
