EllieKMAS (original poster member #68900) posted at 11:30 PM on Tuesday, October 1st, 2024
I realized today that I have been away for a LONG time. LONG. And I miss SI so decided to come back.
I bought a house last November. Well more accurately, I bought an acre of land with a trailer and a 40x50 metal auto shop on it. And a huge pond - not to brag but my pond is so big it has an island in it. The original plan was for me to refurb the shop into my house and then my momma was going to build a little granny cottage on the the other half of the property. What's that they say about the best laid plans? Yeah, so my shop house (that has been being worked on since farking JANUARY) will FINALLY be done this week. It's amazing, but has cost me every cent I have, most of my mental bandwidth and nearly all of my sanity. I have been real-life living the movie 'The Money Pit' and I am so so ready for this part to be done. The last week or so has been great though - I have been able to hang up my artwork and will shortly have a second functioning bathroom and it is finally starting to feel like home now. I realized the other day that between my infidelity circus, divorce, my planning and prepping to move states, renting a house for a year, and now moving into a construction zone that I've been living in since July, I have not truly been 'settled' since 2018. I'm ready to be settled again!
I have enjoyed getting to spray paint things hot pink and decorate with sparkles and flowers and butterflies and not give a shite what anyone thinks of my decorative choices (and believe me I have gotten a lot of weird looks), but my first two contractors were... let's say 'difficult'. I have had to manage every trigger I have all year with their BS and shenanigans. Was good though, I think I have grown a lot and healed a lot this year so I'll take that.
Aside from that, just been hanging and going slowly mad 
Hope all my old timers are still around and doing good!
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 1:32 AM on Wednesday, October 2nd, 2024
Good to hear your update. It sounds like construction was exasperating but the end result sounds great. I was thinking of you the other day. I have missed reading your posts and advice.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:05 AM on Wednesday, October 2nd, 2024
Nice to see your name pop back up- and even better with such a great update. You are brave and tough to tackle such a project- but we knew that already, right? What a hard earned home sweet home!
Glad you came by. I’m sure some folks here could use your wisdom if you have time.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Anna123 ( member #70908) posted at 2:53 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2024
Hello! I am happy to hear you are finally going to be able to settle in your AWESOME sounding new home and property. You own an Island on top of it, so cool:-) I love little pond islands, I can imagine little gnomes living out there. The sparkles sound pretty by the way. There is a part of me that dreams about moving from the city and doing what you did but I'm just a bit too old and comfortable now.
Take care and enjoy!
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:15 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2024
Congrats!!! Sounds like life is good.
Enjoy your new abode.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 7:57 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2024
"I realized the other day that between my infidelity circus, divorce, my planning and prepping to move states, renting a house for a year, and now moving into a construction zone that I've been living in since July, I have not truly been 'settled' since 2018. I'm ready to be settled again!"
I hope you settle right in to peace and happiness in your Barbie glitter pink paradise!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 11:37 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2024
Great update! Congrats on having your own space. Is the pond stocked?
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced 20
