Topic is Sleeping. 
			 
				    				 limitedenergy (original poster  member #59462)		posted at 4:49 AM on Friday, August 25th, 2017	
			 
	By Tammy Nelson 
 
 
	I picked this up to help with sex issues after the A. 
 
 
	The idea I liked the most was weekly date nights.  I think that could be helpful in my situation (feeling disgusted and not wanting to be intimate).  I wish it had had more information on how to evade thoughts of the A while trying to be intimate. 
 
 
	I think this book would be good for anyone in an open relationship, like swingers.  It has a good way of talking about that.  Doesn't apply to me, though. 
 
 
	It also uses a format of discussion that is familiar to anyone who has taken a communications class.  Rephrasing and repeating someone else's message, for example.  Good for anyone having communication issues, I think. 
 
			 	 			 
				    				Unhinged ( member #47977)		posted at 11:19 PM on Tuesday, September 12th, 2017	
			 
	This was the first book I ordered on-line, shortly after d-day. I think the author is a fraud and would never recommend it.  Just my opinion. 
[This message edited by Unhinged at 5:20 PM, September 12th, 2017 (Tuesday)]
 
 
			 			Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown		
	 	 			 
				    				 limitedenergy (original poster  member #59462)		posted at 8:32 PM on Tuesday, September 19th, 2017	
			 
	Hm, I did get the feeling that the content wasn't researched well.  One thing that I found strange was that it said you should specifically spell out your expectations.  I would think most people would assume that their marriage was manogomous unless specified differently.  The author says you should actually say it.  Like in the movies where a cheating boyfriend says something like "well, we never said we were exclusive".  Stupid. 
 
 
	But like another thing else, take what you need, as they say.  I like the idea of date night. 
 
			 	 
	 Topic is Sleeping.