My children's stories

I know children come into the world in all sorts of ways in all sorts of situations... I guess I am struggling because I thought my children had one story, and now they don't. Particularly my youngest, because my husband's affair went on the whole time I was pregnant and while they were a baby. I feel this pain on their behalf that they don't have that story any more, even though they're too young to understand it for the most part (not entirely too young, my eldest likes asking for the story of when they both were born. Unfortunately, memories of my youngest's birth have become extremely traumatic now...). Has anyone else navigated this? What story do you give them when the one they had is now full of such deep betrayal and deceit? My husband insists he always wanted another baby, but I absolutely cannot believe that can be true and he can have been willing to risk harming him the way he did.

6 comments posted: Thursday, September 24th, 2026

Divorce with very young children

If you divorced when your children were very young, how did/do you cope with regularly being apart from them? Do you regret having to split your time with them? I made a lot of sacrifices in order to be able to spend time with my children while they were very small; it has always been important to me to be a present and involved parent. I'm terrified of missing out on a lot of time with them, not being there if they need me etc. It would be really helpful to hear the reality of how others have found it.

10 comments posted: Friday, July 17th, 2026

Betrayal during pregnancy and postpartum

Hi all. My husband had an affair that started while I was pregnant and continued throughout our child's babyhood. It has brought up lots of things for me that are particular to being betrayed during that period of my life and my baby's life. The mods didn't think that this would be apply to enough members to justify its own place in 'I can relate'. I totally understand their reasoning and not having a dedicated space for it is absolutely fine. Unfortunately though hearing that has made me feel even more like some kind of pariah for my husband to have been able to do this. Please some other people tell me that I am not the only person in the world this has ever happened to?

8 comments posted: Friday, November 21st, 2025