 
				    				Unhinged ( member #47977)		posted at 5:00 PM on Thursday, October 8th, 2020	
			 
	A peom by Mickie500 
 
 
	Faithful (Tears) 
 
 
	My tears are faithful 
 
 
	They never leave me wanting 
 
 
	Whenever I summon them 
 
 
	They come prepared 
 
 
	They fill Up my eyes 
 
 
	And if it is safe, they sprint down my face In a maddening rush 
 
 
	Gather at my chin 
 
 
	then they leap off 
 
 
	and land gently on my blouse 
 
 
	My tears are dependable 
 
 
	They lie in wait 
 
 
	Ready to release me 
 
 
	(If only for a moment) 
 
 
	Sometimes they summon 
 
 
	My gut to engage 
 
 
	if they need the reinforcement of sound 
 
 
	that can only come from the pit of my stomach 
 
 
	My tears are created in my gut and yet they have my back 
 
 
	Sometimes they take center stage and silence everything In my body 
 
 
	They subpoena my nerves, cells, and bones 
 
 
	And like a conductor they hold everything in suspension 
 
 
	Until they decide to move in silence 
 
 
	And they gently cascade from my eyes 
 
 
	so tender, that sometimes 
 
 
	I’m unaware that they have been there for me 
 
 
	That they have been delivering me from a silent pain that needed to be liberated 
 
 
	My tears never run out 
 
 
	They remain 
 
 
	in joy and pain 
 
 
	They don’t question- they sequester 
 
 
	they don’t ponder- they don’t fester 
 
 
	They don’t resent- they present 
 
 
	They don’t fluctuate-they alleviate 
 
 
	They don’t switch up- they show up 
 
 
	every time 
 
 
	They are faithful 
 
			 			Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown		
	 	 			 
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 5:45 PM on Thursday, November 19th, 2020	
			 
	From underserving: 
The thing is, I know I’d be ok without him. It’s the being ok WITH him that is taking work....
 
 
			 			fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			 
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 5:29 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2020	
			 
	From HouseOfPlane: 
...we all live an arranged marriage. In my case, it was arranged by two hormone-fueled 20-somethings who had no clue about anything.
 
 
			 			fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			 
				    				AnnieOakley ( member #13332)		posted at 5:58 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2020	
			 
	From Karmafan re: a thread on profound loneliness. 
 
 
	Boom 💥!! 
 
 
	
Every day I think of re-joining a dating app, to numb the pain, the hollowness, but then I remember why I am doing this and I push through. Because I want to get to a place of self-love, where a relationship feels like a choice and not a last chance saloon.
 
 
			 			Me= BSHim=xWH (did the work & became the man I always thought he was, but it was too late)M=23+,T=27+dday=7/06, 8/09 (pics at a work function), 11/09 VAR, 6/12 Sep'd, 10/14 Divorced."If you are going through hell, keep going."		
	 	 			 
				    				Unhinged ( member #47977)		posted at 4:15 PM on Monday, March 1st, 2021	
			 
	From Buffer 
 
 
	
Most of all she will expect you to change for her unicorn fart land mind palace.
I've been laughing out loud for a while just trying to visualize what this palace might look like and all the while feeling certain that NTV might have the blue prints. 
 
			 			Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown		
	 	 			 
				    				grubs ( member #77165)		posted at 1:34 AM on Friday, March 19th, 2021	
			 
	
Healthy adults don't solve their problems with other people's genitals. 
ChamomileTea 
 
			 	 			 
				    				BentandBroken ( member #72519)		posted at 5:54 PM on Thursday, March 25th, 2021	
			 
	From HeHadADoubleLife 
 
 
	I think many of us have come to find out that our spouses who we thought were real, authentic, self-actualized people were not much more than a bunch of maladaptive coping mechanisms stacked on top of each other wearing a trench coat 
 
			 			20+ year relationship; Never officially married
Dday November 2019
4 wonderful grown children
WH multiple APs, currently involved with married COW
Kicked him out on Dday and that was that		
	 	 			 
				    				LadyG ( member #74337)		posted at 1:59 AM on Tuesday, March 30th, 2021	
			 
	
Newlifeisgreat posted 3/29/2021 19:26 PM 
 
 
	Dear God!!!! 
 
 
	There are fewer red flags in China!!! 
 
 
	
 
 
			 			September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼		
	 	 			 
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 7:07 PM on Sunday, April 11th, 2021	
			 
	From Jorge, and it doesn't matter what thread it comes from, because it fits in multitudes of contexts: 
I appreciate the fact that she had a rough childhood but it shouldn't come at the expense of you having a rough adulthood. 
 
 
			 			fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			 
				    				foreverlabeled ( member #52070)		posted at 1:16 AM on Sunday, May 9th, 2021	
			 
	
You can bullshit yourself, you can bullshit your OW, and your can bullshit your wife, but you have to wake up pretty early in the morning to bullshit SI.
 
 
 
	Thank you Bluerthanblue 
 
 
	 
   
   
 
 
			 	 			 
				    				Unhinged ( member #47977)		posted at 8:45 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021	
				Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown		
	 	 			 
				    				Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088)		posted at 10:43 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021	
			 
	From gmc94 
 
 
	
Mowing the lawn can become it's own form of therapy... think of the grass as tiny cheater penises you are cutting off! 
 
 
			 			A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee		
	 	 			 
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 3:44 PM on Saturday, December 4th, 2021	
			 
	From MIgander, writing about WSes reaping what they sow: 
Eventually she's going to be left with her least favorite person- herself. Really, that's the best revenge....
 
 
			 			fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			 
				    				Tanner ( Guide #72235)		posted at 4:46 AM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021	
			 
	From Chaos in a thread about Karma in general.   It’s not a direct quote because she added personal comment to OP.  It has helped me in so many situations.  Again adjusted slightly. 
 
 
	
The view from the high road is spectacular
 
 
 
	Thanks Chaos! 
 
			 			Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 33 years		
	 	 			 
				    				MIgander ( member #71285)		posted at 7:08 PM on Tuesday, January 11th, 2022	
			 
	From thisisfine on a reconciliation thread relating to sex:
If he is going to be selfish all day, he can have himself at night. 
 
			 			WW/BW Dday July 2019.  BH/WH- multiple EA's.  Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.		
	 	 			 
				    				leafields ( Guide #63517)		posted at 2:40 PM on Friday, January 14th, 2022	
			 
	From RealityBlows in General, under Compartmentalize the A. Great description of Unicorn Fart Land vs. Reality:
That alternate reality they create (The Affair Bubble) conveniently shields them from their conscience and creates a wonderfully romantic, although morally ambiguous, environment complete with soft focus, glamour glow, cinematic slow motion, key lighting, and background music from Des'ree or Pink Mountain Tops set in an illicit, dark, fatalistic, forbidden fruit noir and where your AP looks like Kevin Costner or Diane Lane.And then they come home to us, Le chateau of deferred maintenance, screaming kids, bills on the counter, and meatloaf-again.
 
 
			 			BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21		
	 	 			 
				    				sisoon ( Moderator #31240)		posted at 3:28 AM on Saturday, February 12th, 2022	
			 
	I'm not sure I'm laughing at this, but plainsong said this, just after watching a TV commercial:
'I don't know how I'm going to live another 20 years with the way they're murdering our language.'
Really, commercials get more illiterate every year.... 
 
			 			fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.		
	 	 			 
				    				MIgander ( member #71285)		posted at 6:04 PM on Monday, February 14th, 2022	
			 
	From freetogonow in D/S thread, just beautiful:
I was not dumped. It’s that God hid my value and worth from my ex, because my ex was not part of His future plans for me.
 
 
			 			WW/BW Dday July 2019.  BH/WH- multiple EA's.  Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.		
	 	 			 
				    				MIgander ( member #71285)		posted at 3:04 PM on Monday, February 21st, 2022	
			 
	I know it's been said before, but I still love it.  Applies to both BS's looking back on divorce and WS's looking back at AP's:
Ya know what, the grass is only greener over the septic tank.
Thanks PBguy! 
 
			 			WW/BW Dday July 2019.  BH/WH- multiple EA's.  Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.		
	 	 			 
				    				Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088)		posted at 1:25 PM on Tuesday, March 29th, 2022	
			 
	From annb...in the General Forum...about Trickle Truth:
The affair stabbed us in the back, the TT was twisting the knife over and over and over keeping us bleeding and bleeding in pain.
 
 
			 			A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee