Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 4:36 PM on Friday, October 30th, 2026
Totally irrespective of how your marriage pans out:
Deal with your drinking.
I know your therapist said it’s connected – the state of the marriage makes you drink, but your drinking has in some way led to the state of your marriage.
(Never justifies her decision to have an affair, and if it impacted her decision to do so then it’s a totally wrong deduction on her behalf)
But irrespective of if you are married or divorced six months from now – be sober.
If you are going to tell me drinking isn’t an issue then great – stop drinking because it isn’t an issue and therefore no problem.
Do yourself a favor – tonight, without telling your wife – go to an AA meeting.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
