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Is there a way to change or I am looking in the wrong area in my profile?
I am seriously considering getting my wife to read some of the posts on here before I start questioning her on the affair she had 25 years ago that we just rug swept. We didn't even talk about it, just sort of drifted back together.
I was fine for years but over the last few years it is starting to consume me and even more now that my oldest son left his wife for a co-worker. It is constantly on my mind now and I think the only way forward for my mental health is to ask some hard questions.
She is blaming my daughter-in-law for my son's affair and gets upset when this poor girl pushes back so you can see what I am up against. So many times, I have had to bite my tongue, so I don't explode.
There is so much I never knew or possibly ever asked and I know there are things that happened but forgotten details due to PTSD from the whole situation.
If I do, my username will be recognizable, I think. At this stage I would rather her not identify me.
I am hoping if she has a good look here it may help with her lack of empathy.
She is a very hard person to talk to and takes any type of criticism as a personal attack. Her coping mechanism is to lash out verbally then shut down.

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